Tuesday, June 24, 2008

My Life in Lines

Today is smoke-free day 373, and it's also time for Heads or Tails. This week: HEADS - Line.

I am still fairly young (I guess that's relative, but it's also a state of mind), but a few years ago, I already started noticing the "laugh lines" appearing around my mouth along with some other "crows feet" lines near my eyes. Perhaps I should be upset and start buying every possible lotion, potion, or magical remedy, and maybe I'll change my tune as the years make the creases stronger and add a few more, too, but I hope I still don't see it that way even then.

Because here's the thing.

I don't understand exactly how or why I transformed from that awkward and sad girl dressed in the dark colors of early teen angst, but I have, and while every moment isn't sunshine and giggles, I definitely do my share of smiling and laughing down to my toes. When I do, it's easy to see what expressions have created those particular lines on my face, and I'll take them and keep them as permanent mementos of my happy memories.

Even the lines where grief and pain, uncertainty and guilt have been - those, too, are mine, and I claim those lines and even embrace them because they also are a part of where my heart has been and who I've become as a result. They are like tokens or souvenirs in the same way that some of my scars are to me, scars that have made me tougher, scars that always come with a story and scars that prove I've been here living this life of mine good, bad and other. I've gone on about this previously.

Of course this is far from an original concept, and, like last week, though not intentionally, it makes me think of the lyrics to a song I love that reminds me of life. Have you heard this song? What do the lines on your face say about you?

This One's For The Girls by Martina McBride

This is for all you girls about 13
High school can be so rough, can be so mean
Hold on to, on to your innocence
Stand your ground when everybody's givin' in

This one's for the girls

This is for all you girls about 25
In little apartments, just tryin' to get by
Livin' on, on dreams and spaghettios
Wonderin' where your life is gonna go

This one's for the girls
Who've ever had a broken heart
Who've wished upon a shooting star
You're beautiful the way you are
This one's for the girls
Who love without holdin' back
Who dream with everything they have
All around the world
This One's for the girls
(This one's for all the girls) - 1st time only

This is for all you girls about 42
Tossin' pennies into the fountain of youth
Every laugh, laugh line on your face
Made you who you are today


Yeah, we're all the same inside (same inside)
From 1 to 99


(This one's for all the girls)
Yeah, this one's for the girls
(This one's for all the girls)


  1. facial 'lines' are a part of distinction if you ask me. [but then I'm in my prime...not young...not old!] I worked hard all my life to acquire the caricature of these lines that I have...and wear them with pride.

    Excellent blog entry. Mine's shared too.

  2. You are very wise! I love this post!

  3. oh no!!! laugh lines... don't go there.... but you've got a good spin on it, i like that!

  4. I've been communicating with old high school friends on facebook recently, and it's bringing back lots of memories of that time. It feels like just yesterday that I was there (20th reunion is next year), but then again I've changed so much. I'm glad I'm past the emotional turmoil and naivete of that time. It seems every age has its pros and cons.

    Like the song.

  5. I like the way you think.. it's all in the way we choose to look at things, isn't it?

    Love the MM video!

  6. I hear ya. This year I was like DAYUM, when did I start looking OLD? hahahaha

    And I'm not using any wrinkle cream...

  7. I call them my character lines, they are part of my badge of honor in being a woman. It's kinda like grey hair, there is a story (happy and sad) behind everyone of those boogers.

    These signs of maturity are only bad if YOU YOURSELF consider them that way.

  8. Such a well written post :) I love the lyrics to that song too! I can relate to nearly every line, just exchange the "spaghettios" for some "ramen noodles", and it describes me so well ;)

    I have to forward this off to a friend.

  9. Inspiring post. Love that song.

    Congratulations on another smoke-free day!

    MANATEE OF VANITY, at Nickers and Ink


    PS: Don't forget to play at SIMPLY SNICKERS this week . . . posting new poetry prompts every Sunday.

  10. I was just listening to that song today on the way home, thinking about how awesome it. I've been noticing the laugh lines and crows feet for awhile too. I have days where I feel old, but most of the time I feel young. My 20th reunion is in two years, so I can't wait to see who looks older than me. I think alot of them will, so that makes me feel better.

  11. Very good post.
    I believe it is the Chinese who have "face readers" and lines are important features.

    I love that song.

    Congrats on the quit smoking campaign for yourself.

  12. I can honestly say that I've never listened to the words of this song before and I LOVE IT. I loved this post. Because you're right. I'm getting laugh lines, and that's ok because I laugh A LOT. And why would I get rid of them? I like them there. One of my favorite types of lines are the crows feet that men get. I think it shows their sensitivity. They're there because they smile a lot or have that scrunchy concerned face a lot. I can tell a lot about a guy who has those.

  13. I could't have said it better myself :)

  14. I’ve not congratulated you recently for the smoke-free days … but you go girl! Your HoTs link took me to your April 15th post on Tips … but I navigated my way here. Interesting ‘take’ on this week’s theme. I’ve long referred to these as ‘character lines’ … and my 63 year old face has MANY. Hopefully they reflect who I’ve become through living life ;--)
    Hugs and blessings,

  15. Oh man, I've recently discovered the joys of lines on my face - but only when I smile, so I guess I can't complain too loudly!

    I like to think of the Indigo Girl's song "Get Out the Map" - it has one line that says "With every lesson learned a line upon your beautiful face..."

    I like that line. It's like it gives me permission to get my own lines, because it's something that means strength and beauty.

    Or else I'm totally full of it. Which is always a possibility.


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