Tuesday, January 20, 2009

Hearts and Feet Revisited


Today is HEADS *OR* TAILS - "Feet" *OR* "Feat"

How can it be that I haven't done Heads or Tails since early December? In any case, a really neat thing has happened to me since blogging, and it fits in here, definitely under "Feet" and even kind of under "Feat" in the sense that it is a fairly bold achievement for a girl like me, and it involves my feet.

See, back at the start of February 2008, just a little over a year ago, I did a little bloggy meme thing that was going around related to body image and to basically quit hating and start loving. For the first time in 30+ years, I looked at my feet in a different way, and I realized today that I haven't hated them since that day. Today my feet are mine, a part of who I am, and I love them for why they look as they do, where they have taken me and where I hope they'll lead me next.

Here, then, is a re-post of what I wrote then, the day I decided to love all of me:
Kelly over at Ordinary Art [updated link] issued a challenge that Secret Agent Mama accepted, and I was inspired to go for it, too, and so I share my feet with you.

They are just feet, for goodness sake. Living in the parts of the world where I mostly have, they are covered for over half the year anyway, so it's not like anyone can see the macaroni toes that I've always hated so much. Then even in the winter months I'd shop so carefully, hoping to find shoes that make my feet look smaller. If I were taller, my feet would seem more like the right size - I've always been fine with my height, but just wanted smaller and cuter little feet that were a better match with the rest of the package. Why they are so sensitive (physically and mentally) is beyond me, but they are that, too.

Guess what? It doesn't matter.

Kelly and Mishelle said far more eloquently all the good stuff about body image that women often struggle to remember. I just know that in the grand scheme of things, what my feet look like or what size they are in relation to my body is just fine.

My feet are mine, and I just realized that my pat explanation always given while complaining about my feet (something I've said more times and to more people than I can count) is actually not a negative but a positive. Being able to say that I got my tall dad's bigger feet and my short mom's shorter height means that I have something silly but tangible to remind me of them both, for as long as I live, and I do not have to consider these two aspects of me to be somehow incompatible. I hope I'll never look at my feet as being so "ugly" or "too big for my body" ever again because I am grateful for the life my parents gave me, which happened to come with a 5'2" height and a size 8 shoe. So be it. Even as my mother has passed on and my dad grows older, I'll always be a part of them, and I'll always carry them with me, along with the humor they taught me, in my clown-sized shoes, macaroni toes and all ;)

Thank you to Kelly for the challenge, Mishelle and others for taking part so that I saw it and for all in general who make the blogosphere go round so that we can connect and learn and grow in some really cool ways. This one changed me, and I'm grateful.

26 comments:

  1. Oh my gosh, Maggie. That really, really touched me. I got all teary eyed and everything.

    To be able to accept oneself (or even parts of oneself) is such a big accomplishment. I don't know if I could find the courage to do as you did. I really don't.

    I love the way you were able to tie this in with your mom and your dad. Beautiful.

    Oh and to me your toes look fine.

    Welcome back. :)

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  2. You have lovely, absolutely lovely, feet. And painted, well tended toes. I love your feet.

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  3. Perfect for this week's theme, and you have cute feet. I'm glad you've learned to like and appreciate them.

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  4. My goodness there is nothing wrong with your feet, the toes are nice and straight, no bunions, or anything unsightly. I am not much bigger than 5' 2" and have size 8 shoes welcome to the club.

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  5. Those aren't feet!

    Where are the corns...the hair on the knuckles...the curled toenails...

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  6. You are right, they have carried you this far, and they will carry you farther in life. They are a part of you, and like you say, you have to love them to love you.

    I don't get the macaroni toes though. Your feet like wondrous and beautiful feet to me.

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  7. well sweetie, over and above the fact that there is NOTHING wrong with your feet, they are beautiful and cared for in fact, i'm glad you now like your feet.

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  8. AWESOME!!!!!!
    I love the fact about which you wrote..."I like where they've taken me and where they're going to take me". That's a sound and perfect way to say "I like Me!"

    Happy HoT Tuesday. I went with "FEAT".

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  9. I found we tend to beat ourselves up for the most ridiculous reasons. Your feet are fine, lovely...dear one, truly. Me? I have small feet, with web toes. No kidding..

    I don't know if it's age or not. I've come to the conclusion I've earned every line, curve, part of my body over the years. I'm as unique as they come. Or perhaps, i'm just beyond the place of bothering to even worry about self image. The inside takes far more work *winks*...(Hugs)Indigo

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  10. What a really sweet and touching post. (And feet gross me out normally!)

    I love that not only did you have a turning point in your life where you accepted yourself for you, but that you found symbolism and meaning in it too.

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  11. This post was quite a feat in itself. Enjoyed that :-)

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  12. You have adorable feet, and this is a truly fantastic post!

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  14. I've lived in Florida for 22 yrs. and have seen all kinds of really, really ugly, gross and dirty feet. Yours are not!! They look well cared for and very cute. Wear sandals proudly!!

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  15. What a lovely, thought-filled, and poignant post for this week's theme. You have beautiful feet ;--)
    Hugs and blessings,

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  16. I'm a bit teary after reading this as well. So beautifully said, Maggie. Really. And you have lovely feet :)

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  17. How inspirational was this post! Lovely just lovely....

    stopping by visiting all the 2008 Okie Blog award Noms-CONGRATS on your Nom!!!
    http://okiedoke.com/ok/08awards/index.html

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  18. Oh Maggie, my dear. Thank you for bringing that link back. That post was the single most powerful thing I ever did on my blog. Your post, your feet, you. are. beautiful.
    Lovely!

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  19. What an excellent post. You are a great writer.

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  20. Maggie - Thanks for stopping by my blog and commenting. Good luck to you as well. You really do have a very lovely blog!

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  21. I agree. Your feet are just lovely and well cared for! Can't understand what would be wrong with them! Good of you that you can see that now!

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  22. Thank you so much for visiting my blog today. I'm so excited about the nomination!! Giddy to be exact! LOL!

    Congrats on your nomination as well.

    I loved this post you did. I'm going to add you to my blog list.

    Don't feel bad about your feet. I have a size 11. Ack!!! It's almost impossible to find cute shoes. When I was pregnant I had to special order 12's!!! I was very thankful they went back to 11's!! LOL!

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  23. Maggie, you have really, really cute feet, honestly!

    What a sweet post :)

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  24. Oh, but Maggie, you have such nice looking feet! Glad you love them now, cause they really do look quite lovable! :-)

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  25. I think you have lovely, PRETTY feet! Love how you embraced Kelly's challenge.

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